A recent blog post from my sister Elea for the organization Women’s Startup Lab. An important message to all you men and women entrepreneurs, leaders, parents. Every day I speak to at least one person who is trying to reckon with what this means in their daily life. Take it away, sister!
Self-care. Repeat after me: SELF CARE.
It was the message of last week, it appeared again as the message of this week, and we are realizing it is the message for every week: take care of yourself.
Really. No excuses. No putting-others-first. No putting children first. No putting-business-first.
It’s practical, really. If you are not cared for and able to lead, who will lead for you? You’ve heard, “Lead, follow, or get out of the way.” You didn’t become an entrepreneur because you wanted to follow or get out of the way! Same goes for parenting. Perhaps you have a parenting partner (just as perhaps you have a co-founder), or perhaps you are on your own, but either way, you are required to lead. Your co-founder, your co-parent, if present, is your partner, not your leader.
This topic arises in our discussions at Women’s Startup Lab. Does that mean only women lack in self-care? Or that only we indulge in self-care? Maybe yes, maybe no. Men have higher rates of stress-related diseases. Shorter life expectancy. Can we attribute those factors to lack of self-care? Not entirely, but we can’t dismiss it either. Raise your hand if there’s a man in your life who you wish would take better care of himself.
What are possible modes of self-care? It sure ain’t all chocolates and pedicures. Not even yoga and sleep (although, if I were limited to two, I’d pick chocolates and sleep). How do you take care of yourself? What is the relationship between self-care and integrity? What signs do you experience when you are lacking in self-care? Comment and I’ll incorporate here. We can learn from each other. Self-care, like charity, begins at home.
Find out more about Women’s Startup Lab here.
Take part in this discussion. I (Rachel) am giving workshops on self-care and recovery, and I find there’s a lot we can learn about what happens when we’re lacking, methods that work, and the power of using them.
What does self-care or recovery/renewal mean to you?
How do you know you’re lacking? (qualitatively? or quantitatively?)
What recovery practices and rituals do you have or aspire to?